Archives For Emotional Pain

Let’s wrap up our short discussion on H.O.P.E. To recap, stories are one of the most valuable ways to regain hope. That’s why we listen to them, read them, and why God put them in the Bible.

It’s History now, but stories still inspire. In my last post I introduced you to Hannah and her story. We left off with her feeling hopeless.

She had done all she could. She was out of answers. However, she could pray, believe, and wait. In short, if God didn’t show up and do something, then she would never have a child.

That’s what she did. Like the Psalmist she poured out her complaint to God and told Him all about her trouble (Psalm 142:2). Her prayer led to personal peace for we read, “And she said, “Let your servant find favor in your eyes.” Then the woman went her way and ate, and her face was no longer sad (1 Samuel 1:18, ESV). Soon after she experienced…

Omnipotence. That is, God stepped in. “They rose early in the morning and worshiped before the Lord; then they went back to their house at Ramah. And Elkanah knew Hannah his wife, and the Lord remembered her” (1 Samuel 1:19, ESV).

Perhaps you are thinking, “I can only take so much.”  “Or how long will it take?” Or “What’s the purpose in all my mess?”

That’s when you need…

Promises. Not a promise that your pain will go away. Not that the sun will shine brightly on your life tomorrow. You need to know that God is always working, despite what you see and feel. In the present things don’t make sense.  “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose” (Romans 8:28), ESV).

Or do we? We’re beginning to doubt. So right now maybe a lot of problems and predicaments are weaving their way throughout your life. Everywhere you look there are dark clouds.

There is another great story about Joseph. Note what he said about all that he had gone through:  “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today” (Genesis 50:20, ESV). The phrase you meant evil against me could be translated you weaved evil into my life. Which they did.

But what did God do? He re-weaved all the bad stuff and turned it into one spectacular finish. I realize happy endings are not automatic. But what I want you to see is the promise that God is working. That’s what we need to know.

That should lead you to our final letter…

Encouragement. Hope and encouragement. Those are found throughout the Old Testament. Even the apostle Paul was aware of the value to be found in the Scriptures, “For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope” (Romans 15:4, ESV).

H.O.P.E. can be a reality in the midst of your own pain. Is it?

 

It’s been well said that hope never goes out of style. Who doesn’t need hope? I’ll bet you wonder about that at times. Because all of us sure need it.

You even wonder what it would be like to not need hope.

While all may need hope, some are in desperate need of it.

What’s the difference?

You desperately need hope when you feel…

Helpless. You don’t have the answers or the resources to alleviate your current pain.

Overwhelmed. You feel like you are drowning in debt, emotional pain, or on the verge of a nervous breakdown.

Paralyzed. How many times have you sat and thought for hours only to realize that you have not accomplished anything? Pain affects our productivity.

Exhausted. You are at the end of your rope and you know it.

You are not alone. In my next post I want to share a story from the Old Testament where we will meet a woman who was in need of hope. Her pain was about to do her in. She wondered if life would ever change.

It did.

iStock_ManInDespairI can still recall playing outside with one of my best friend in third grade.  His brother was also playing with us, and for a reason I can no longer remember he picked up a rock and hit me upside the head.  I do recall he that he got in a lot of trouble.

Rocks hurt.  They hurt worse when coming from a friend.

Reminds me of Joseph.  He seemed to love his brothers, but their feelings for him were just the opposite.  In fact, they hated him.  So much so that one day as the opportunity presented itself the brothers sold Joseph into slavery.

Joseph’s story includes three things that often occur in our own lives, and all three seem to intensify the pain. You can read the whole story in Genesis 37 and 39-50.

1. Indifference.  Later in the narrative the brothers are discussing how they heard his cries, but they ignored them and continued to eat their lunch.  Let’s be honest most are thinking only of themselves.  There were many Saturdays when I was the only one to show for work. They weren’t too worried as to how their absence affected me.  People quit their jobs without any notice at all, being totally oblivious to any hurt they may cause.  Friends hurt friends, spouses hurt spouses, and employees hurt employers and never stop to consider the hurt they cause.  Indifference hurts.

2. Injustice.  Joseph was later thrown into prison by his master after he was falsely accused of attempted rape.  There he sits in the cell thinking, “What good does it do to be good?”  I can imagine a wife feels the same way after her husband leaves her for another woman.  How many times does life appear to go well for the guilty husband.  It just doesn’t seem fair, or just.  And injustice intensifies the hurt.

3. Ingratitude.  After some time in prison, Joseph gained hope.  He gave the interpretation to Pharaoh’s former cupbearer’s dream.  Three days later the cupbearer was released from prison and forgot all about Joseph.  So after Joseph requested that the cupbearer remember him, he forgets him.  It’s as if he is not thankful at all for the interpretation of his dream. That had to hurt. Ingratitude.

If you are Joseph how do you maintain hope?  If your dream has been dashed by family and friends how do you keep hope alive?  How do you keep smiling?  Is it possible to persevere with a positive attitude?

It is, and in my next post I will give you three keys to surviving the cruel encounters of life, because life can be cruel.

 

Believe in YourselfLife is full of adversity. Obstacles seem to be around every corner.
If you ever feel like throwing in the towel and bailing on your dream think about the guy who…
*failed in business at the age of 32.
*ran for the state legislature and lost at the same age.
*gave business another shot at age 33 and failed again.
*lost his sweetheart at age 35.
*had a nervous breakdown at age 36.
*defeated running for Congress at 43.
*defeated again at age 48.
*ran for the Senate and defeated at 55.
*ran for Vice Presidency and defeated at 56.
*ran for the Senate again at 58 and lost again.
But he never QUIT!
*In 1860 he was elected President of the United States!!
Abraham Lincoln kept believing in himself.
Keep believing in yourself. You’ll be glad you did.